Juggling a full-time career, your RU studies, and family time may leave you wishing that you could jet off to some foreign country and restart your life that there were more hours in a day. The internet is bursting with advice listicles and the “How to Find the Perfect Work/School/Life Balance” category is no exception. But there’s one thing that many of these lists fail to discuss: the fact that a lot of life is probably never going to feel completely balanced. Here are some reminders to help you feel something close to it.
- Managing all of your goals might be overwhelming and that’s okay. Being overwhelmed is the first step to acknowledging what your responsibilities are and identifying what’s really important to you. Let yourself feel the full magnitude of everything you need and want to accomplish, but don’t let it drag you down. Recognize, organize, prioritize, and then find the confidence within yourself to start conquering!
- Your mindset is everything. You can’t always control your situation but you can always control how you react to it. No, you don’t always need to expect the unexpected or constantly wait for the other shoe to drop, however, you can learn to be more comfortable when unforeseen events occur. Understanding that sometimes things just come up and choosing to act with a flexible mind is one of the most valuable skills you can cultivate for yourself.
- You are incredibly capable, but people need people. With a career, school, and family to take care of, it’s important to have a support system that you can count on not only in times of stress, but also during times of happiness and achievement. Family, friends, and other people you’re close to can help lighten the load, be it by pitching in with household tasks, being someone to talk to, or spending quality time together. Set up check-ins and be honest with yourself and with others when you need help.
- It’s not about doing it all, it’s about finding satisfaction. A goal of balance is often a disguised goal of satisfaction. If you’re not happy in one area of your life, chances are it’ll start to affect the other areas too. Identify what truly makes you enjoy your work, school, and family life and figure out what’s bogging you down. Try to maximize the things that bring you the most satisfaction, and confront the things that don’t. If the majority of your time is filled with things that bring you joy, then those feelings of unbalance go away.